Asexual Man Needs Counseling, Not Advice

DEAR ANN LANDERS: I am a good-looking 26-year-old male college grad, and definitely asexual. This is not the way I want it to be, but after 15 dates with lovely, interesting young women, and not the slightest desire to kiss even one of them, I know the truth.

My problem is how to deal with those who assume that because I do not sleep around, I am gay. Several friends have hinted and offered "understanding and acceptance anyway." Relatives have suggested counseling. I admit I have problems but homosexuality is not one of them.

Years ago, when dealing with my fear of relationships, I considered the possibility that I was gay. But I have never been attracted to males, so that's out.

My shyness has made me reluctant to form close relationships, and I'm sure there are others like me. Please print this letter so all the bloodthirsty clunks out there will stop whispering about us and offer, instead, a little understanding. — NOWHERESVILLE IN LOVELAND (BLOOMFIELD HILLS, MICH.)

DEAL BLOOM: Simply ignore the innuendos. He who excuses himself, accuses himself. Get some additional counseling. Your life will be enormously richer when you conquer your fear of close relationships.